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Review: The Five Love Languages

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Non-Fiction. Published 1992.

Read: January 2013, 203 pages

★★★★☆

Book Blurb:

Skillful communication is within your grasp. While love is a many splendored thing, it is sometimes a very confusing thing, too. And as people come in all varieties, shapes, and sizes, so do their choices of personal expressions of love. But more often than not, the giver and the receiver express love in two different ways. Dr. Chapman identifies these and guides you towards a better understanding of your unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate’s love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return.

Impressions:

The Five Love Languages was enjoyable and insightful. It offers a guide to specific and personal ways people express their love. Everyone has different needs and when they aren’t met it’s hard for others to reciprocate love. Dr. Chapman insists that speaking the love language of your mate will even rekindle a relationship that appears to be broken beyond repair. I recommend this book to all who are seeking to improve their relationships with others. At times the book is wordy and technical, but the author adds many relatable examples of real couples to illustrate his points.

Thoughts:

We all have unique preferences when it comes to expressing and receiving love. Dr. Chapman lays out what each love language is and how to identify which category a personal falls in to. Your love language is the way that you most feel loved and cared for. The problem is most people know how they want to be loved, but that doesn’t tend to align with how their partner wants to be loved. You have to learn to speak your partner’s love language. The five love languages are:

  1. Words Of Affirmation: Encouraging words, verbal compliments, kind words, appreciation, humble words, admiration
  2. Quality Time: Togetherness, focused attention, quality conversation, listening, expressing emotions, scheduled activities
  3. Gifts: Purchased gifts, physical presence, made gifts
  4. Acts Of Service: Doing something for your partner that you know they would like for you to do
  5. Physical Touch: Holding, intimacy

Quotes:

Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love. -p92

Love doesn’t erase the past, but it makes the future different. -p130

Is it possible to love someone whom you hate? -p147

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Review: Happily Ever After

Happily Ever After by Craig Groeschel

Non-Fiction. Published 2007.

Read: January 2013, 230 pages

★★★☆☆

Book Blurb:

What do you do if you want a marriage that doesn’t just survive, but thrives? That doesn’t just begin romantically but ends magnificently? You do something different.
 
For today’s generation, “getting what you want” is often a substitute for love, and disillusionment about marriage is the new normal. But you can have a long-term, love-blessed marriage. Whether you’re still considering it, are about to be wed, or have been married for a while and want to make changes, Happily Ever After delivers an infusion of hope. Author Craig Groeschel clearly and honestly lays out the choices and commitments you can make now to change the way you think and act—to build the relationship you want for the rest of your life.

With an invigorating mix of personal story, practical guidance and biblical truth, Craig invites you into a candid conversation about first dates, intimacy, communication, integrity, forgiveness, and commitment. Along the way, he shows how you can build a soul-enriching, God-honoring relationship with the one you love. This book was previously released as Going All the Way.

Impressions:

Craig Groeschel is the founding and senior pastor at LifeChurch.tv. Craig, his wife, and their six children live in Oklahoma  where LifeChurch.tv began in 1996. He speaks frequently at conferences and has written several books.

Happily Ever After is a quick read that doesn’t have a lot of depth to its’ points, but covers some good issues. His book addresses many of the big questions on finding the one, friendship, intimacy, how far is too far, cohabitation, responsibilities, and break ups. His philosophy- God is your number one and your spouse is your number two. So many times priorities get mixed up and leave marriages hurting. People place their children and wealth above their covenant to God. Craig wants you to be successful in marriage and work for it.

Thoughts:

The book misses a big opportunity as it lacked depth. Happily Ever After is still encouraging in ways. In the chapter Habits of the Heart, Craig discusses the habits which will nurture a godly marriage. The greatest thing you can do is invest in your relationship with God. The more you lead like Jesus, the better all your relationships will be. Spend time in solitude and prayer. Serve others.

Craig connects the book to his personal experiences. He seems genuine in having a passion to help others.

Quotes:

He will empower you to find His beauty dormant in her heart. Look for it. See what others overlook. Encourage her. Build her up. Lift her high. -p164

A covenant is serious business. -p208

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Review: Stolen Innocence

Stolen Innocence by Elissa Wall

Non-Fiction. Published 2009.

Read: April 2012, 464 pages

★★★★★

Book Blurb:

In September 2007, a packed courtroom in St. George, Utah, sat hushed as Elissa Wall, the star witness against polygamous sect leader Warren Jeffs, gave captivating testimony of how Jeffs forced her to marry her first cousin at age fourteen. This harrowing and vivid account proved to be the most compelling evidence against Jeffs, showing the harsh realities of this closed community and the lengths that Jeffs went to in order to control the women in it. Now, in this courageous memoir, Elissa Wall tells her incredible and inspirational story of her time in the Fundamentalist Church of Latter Day Saints (FLDS), detailing how she emerged from its confines to help bring one of America’s most notorious criminals to justice.

Impressions:

This is an excellent, timely, eye opening book and a ‘must read’ for anyone interested in issues involving women in our country during this century. It describes the upbringing of Elissa Wall and FLDS teachings. Her story is heroic and strong. She becomes empowered and fights against the monsters that created her hell to help save others in her situation. Elissa is continually forced to “stay sweet”, a common phrase used when you are shattering inside, but can’t let it show. It’s remarkable and repulsive to learn that practices such as this continue to happen in our country.. Elissa just escaped in 2005!

Thoughts:

Elissa grew up in the FLDS as a strong believer with a large family and three ‘mothers’. Her youth was chaotic enough, but then the unimaginable came to life as she was forced to marry her first cousin at the age of fourteen. Elissa endured severe abuse at the hands of her husband as well as a still birth and three miscarriages before her eighteenth birthday. Elissa bravely details her family life, tragedies, and triumphs as she comes to know the outside world and fatefully meets her now husband Lamont. Her life was indoctrinated with false testimonies by a false prophet and her bewildered upbringings are deeply expressed and clearly detailed in her inspiring memoir.

The most fascinating bit I found was how someone can become so indoctrinated with blind faith even in a world of internet and vast knowledge. Elissa had exposure to the outside world at times but was too afraid to forever lose her mother and too confused if she would be damned to hell for leaving. When she meets Lamont in a truly fateful turn of events, she finds true love and I believe it is her love for Lamont that helps un-tint her indoctrinations and breathe. Elissa has gone to extraordinary lengths to help FLDS women and children since her escape. She is a beautiful person and a true servant.

Quotes:

It turned out that the envelopes were tithing letters from the FLDS people. They had been opened just enough to extract the money inside but not enough to have read the letters. We’d heard one from a five year old boy, telling Warren that he prayed it would be enough to send back his father, who had apparently lost the priesthood and had his family taken away. -p362

I looked at that picture and saw what I was fighting for. People, girls, were still being put in my position, and I needed to stand up and make it right. To fight for those who still hadn’t found their voice. -p367

When I was young, my mother taught me that evil flourishes when good men do nothing. This has not been easy. The easy thing would have been to do nothing. But I have followed my heart and spoken the truth. -p427

I hope this book reaches the many young girls and women around the world whose faces I’ll never see and whose names I’ll never know, and perhaps in some way my words will help them to use their strength to reclaim what is rightfully theirs– the power of choice. -p436

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